As we are living in times of great change, many couples are finding that their ‘old ways’ of conducting their relationships no longer work. Often they simply need to learn new skills to take their relationship to a higher level through couples psychotherapy.
However, since very often, much deeper and more complex issues can arise in a relationship, couples can often find themselves acting out very painful scenarios with each other. This is a result of a collusion of deep emotional wounds, which they tend to be unconscious of. When this occurs, love can easily turn sour, and as neither side can understand what is really going on… And as there is such a tendency in us to refuse to acknowledge the ‘mote in their own eye’, and instead, to blame the other, many couples break up.
Just as in the world of International Relations, where a conflict between two nations can often only be resolved when a third country steps in to play the role of mediator or peace keeper, I often play a similar role in the couples psychotherapy spectrum. And over the years I have had considerable success in rescuing relationships poised on the edge of total break up. So long as both parties are on ‘the same side’ and are united in wanting their relationship to work. I will often work with both of them individually, at the same time as seeing them as a couple.
As the issue of having a ‘good fit’ between client and therapist is again so important. If after meeting for the first time you feel that you have not benefited from the exchange and that this is not right for you, you are not required to pay anything.
If you are interested in couples psychotherapy or would like to know more, send me an e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org